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By far a few of my biggest flaws are being way too forgiving and not knowing when it’s time to give up on something (job, idea, relationship, etc).

Over the years I’ve gotten better at recognizing when I’m wasting too much time on something however actually stopping what I’m doing still proves to be more difficult than it should be, especially when it comes to loyalty.

For example, the company that I currently work for used and abused my talents and never really thanked me.

Not only was I not thanked but it got to the point to where I was EXPECTED to do way more than what I was getting paid for.

I normally just chalked it up to a “learning lesson” however I should have left a long time ago.

Granted I’m in a new position as well as a new role in Atlanta with the same company but the way that I was treated will be a constant reminder of how I often tend to be too loyal.

During the end of may another “thing” that I’ve been too loyal to presented itself and it has taken me up until today so that that I’m finished.

The “thing” that I’m referring to has been something that I’ve been dealing with for going on seven years.

Now the “thing” was supposed to have complimented me in every element once it arrived however I tend to find myself looking at “thing” in an entirely new light, almost like a dead weight that I’ve been lugging around because I’ve invested too much time into it.

If I’ve lost you allow me to give you an analogy:

Say you have a girlfriend (or boyfriend) that you’ve been with for seven years.

You have a child together so you continue to tell yourself that this person is the person for you however in your heart you know that’s not the case.

You continue to put up with bullshit from a person that realistically doesn’t complete you nor makes you better and you feel as though you’re the one getting the short end of the stick.

You love the person, as a person but you’re not in love with that person and you haven’t been for a very long time.

You’ve actually come to realize that even participating in this relationship was a mistake from the jump and you’ve grown to damn near hate the person.

The person is no where near your level however in their mind they actually think that they’re your equal or better, which you know in your heart is a joke so you just mark it off to this person being extremely ignorant.

The only reason you still stick in the relationship is because of a false sense of security that you might have and the fact that this person has your child.

So at what point do you decide to move on and allow you both to grow apart to see the wonderful people that you can both become?

That is a heck of an analogy huh?

I really dislike not following through on things that I’ve applied myself to however today I realize that when something is costing you time, money and peace, no matter how great of an idea something is, it’s only worth something if you not only see but reap the benefits.

As my cousin Jason told me, life is about choices and chances.

Make choices and take chances.